Job Performance Feedback: 7 Tips For Receiving Feedback Gracefully
1. Do Welcome Constructive Feedback
Your powers of self-perception only go so far. People around you notice things, both good and bad, which you don’t and you might learn from their input. There is a “virtuous circle” of feedback whereby the more you actively seek it out, the less you can hide bad behaviour, and generally your feedback is better. E-bay seller feedback is an excellent example of a transparent feedback process, encouraging positive behaviours.
2. Don’t Justify Your Position
Telling the person why their feedback is wrong will not work. Ever. Arguing, justifying your position or denial are all powerful negative emotions, making the conversation more challenging than it need be. The only way for the conversation to go is downhill, with tempers flaring and insults flying.
3. Do Accept Feedback At Face Value
Although the feedback might feel like a personal insult, challenging your whole identity, keep some perspective. The feedback relates to specific instances, in one part of your life AND now you know about it, you have the opportunity to do something about it.
Don't Ruminate On Feedback
Do Evaluate Feedback Before Responding
Don’t Throw Your Toys From The Push-chair
7. Do Make Your Choice How To Use The Feedback
Feedback can be a gift allowing you to grow and develop as a person, in a job or in a relationship. But some feedback is downright useless and best ignored. Yes, ignored. It is ultimately your choice how to act, or not, upon feedback received.
For example, you receive internal customer feedback saying you don’t do “x” and they think you should. You’ve actually spent some time considering “x”, and it’s simply not cost effective. How about thanking them for the feedback, letting them know the history and asking how else you could meet their needs. Chances are they will be happy enough, and go off not noticing that you didn’t respond directly to their feedback. Slick!
Giving or receiving feedback, in particular job performance feedback, can be an emotional roller-coaster if you let it be. Learn how to receive feedback gracefully, giving you the emotional headspace to learn and grow from the experience.
"I've used your handout '7 tips for receiving feedback gracefully' within several training sessions and the response has been excellent. People appreciate that you acknowledge the difficulties and identify the holes we can all fall into, e.g. ruminating over feedback or re-enacting the discussion with friends. We have had some great discussions which have led to some people gaining real insight into their reactions and responses to feedback. Great stuff."
Beth Cumming. Freelance Trainer, Edinburgh, UK
Citation Information: Swinton, Lyndsay. "Job Performance Feedback: 7 Tips For Receiving Feedback Gracefully." Mftrou.com. 9 March 2005. < http://www.mftrou.com/giving-receiving-feedback-job.html >.blog comments powered by Disqus
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